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As Flash approaches six months old (way too fast I might add), I’m looking back at my last pregnancy with a little bit of sadness. Our family definitely feels complete now but the realization that I’ll never be pregnant again has a little (very little) sting. Our kids are here and we’re not dealing with the stress and anxiety of adoption or pregnancy anymore. I suppose it’s a post-infertility woman thing. My last baby…*sigh.
This last pregnancy with Flash was so much easier than my other two. There just wasn’t time to be anxious or worried about all the things that could go wrong. I had two other children who already required my attention. I experienced similar symptoms along the way. Nausea, dizziness, cramps, etc. But it was nothing I couldn’t handle and actually found a good amount of relief just from upping my magnesium intake and switching prenatal vitamins. Everyone knows though, with pregnancy the focus is on the end game. Labor.
I had always hoped and prayed for a natural delivery.
Because Evelyn passed away in utero, I had to be induced to give birth to her. The process was incredibly painful (for more than one reason).
When I was pregnant with Little Dude, I told my doctor I wanted to do everything possible to have a natural birth. It seemed like it was going to happen until Little Dudes heart rate dropped during a non-stress test. Again I was induced.
It turned out LD had his cord around his neck and contractions were putting too much pressure on it. Induction resulted in Little Dude being delivered healthy and safe, and that’s all I care about. Being induced both times also meant epidurals both times. My body did not like all those medications and I suspect they contributed to LDs severe infant eczema.
I got another shot at a natural delivery with Flash.
I made it clear to my doctor that natural was my goal and she saw no reason why it couldn’t happen. I’ve had the same doctor for all three pregnancies so she was very understanding.
As a precaution I was scheduled for regular non-stress tests again but we never saw any abnormalities. I chose to prepare my body as best as I could for a natural delivery. I was determined to experience everything I could. To have my water break naturally, feel labor progress naturally, and deliver my child when he was fully ready; that was my dream and best case scenario. I read tons of articles on how to prepare for natural birth and I’d like to share the things that were helpful to me.
Little disclaimer: I’m not a doctor. I’m not even related to one. Don’t even like going to see doctors if I can avoid it. So take what I have to say for what it is; opinion only. This is my own personal experience and I hope it’s helpful to you.
Here are four steps I took to avoid being induced:
1. Evening Primrose Oil
EPO contains prostaglandins which can help ripen the cervix. I took it for PMS before getting pregnant too. It’s good for hormonal balance in general. It can be taken orally or as a vaginal suppository. I opted to just stick with taking it orally. The suppository method can get, ahem… messy. Be careful though. Don’t start taking it until after 37 weeks as it can cause premature labor if taken earlier. I started with 1300mg at 37 weeks and doubled it at 39 weeks, taking one capsule in the morning and one in the evening. Although I opted to not have my cervix checked, because ouch, I dilated very quickly and had a very minor tear as compared to the severe tear I had with Little Dude.
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2. Dates
I found this article to be very helpful. I love everything Mama Natural writes though. She’s always very informative. To summarize her post: “Researchers have found that date fruit has an oxytocin-like effect on the body, leading to increased sensitivity of the uterus. It also helps stimulate uterine contractions, and reduces postpartum hemorrhage the way oxytocin does.” Basically they make your uterus nice and soft. Benefits also include a good size list of natural vitamins. Plus they’re yummy! I ate the recommended six dates a day (yes six!) starting around the beginning of my third trimester. On days where I got a little sick of them I’d hide them in smoothies or grab a Lara Bar (the apple pie flavor is the bees knees).
3. Red Raspberry Leaf Tea
I’m a big tea drinker to begin with. Neither Josh nor I drink coffee. I’ve always preferred tea so this was a simple step. I just switched my beloved green tea for a cup of RRL once a day starting at the beginning of my third trimester. Some people recommend starting to drink it at the second trimester, and some even earlier, but I just wasn’t brave enough. Red raspberry leaf has been shown to naturally strengthen the uterus making contractions more efficient (not something you want early in pregnancy). By toning those muscles, it can make labor faster. This was definitely the case with Flash’s birth. Six hours from first contraction to birth as compared to the 26 hours it took Little Dude to arrive. It also has a huge list of vitamins and minerals, helps bring about milk production faster, and balances postpartum hormones. Score!
4. Guts
When I went in for my non-stress test on my due date the doctor on staff tried as hard as she could to get me to induce. She told me there was no medical reason to stay pregnant and even used Evelyn’s stillbirth to try to talk me into it. In all fairness the hospital where I delivered is a trauma facility. The employees are trained to expect and handle the worst case scenario. However, when I asked her if there was a medical reason to induce, she couldn’t give me one. Flash was healthy and happy. I won’t lie and tell you it was easy to stick to my guns. It’s easy to give in to fear, especially when your kids are involved. My mama gut stood firm though and I’m so grateful God granted me the birth experience I wanted.
I won’t say my labor was painless as a result of the steps I took to prepare. Not by a long shot. But it was easier and quicker than I could have ever hoped. If you’re hoping for the same, do your research, listen to your body, and trust your instincts.
Melanie says
I lost my first born as well. My water broke when I was 32 weeks and he didn’t make it. I am now 24 weeks pregnant with our second and hoping to keep her in for a couple more months! I am hoping to have a natural labor, so I appreciate your article!
Kristen says
Oh, Melanie. I am so sorry for your loss. Such a small sentence with so much hurt in it. But, I am thrilled for your rainbow baby! I’m so glad my post was helpful to you!
Emily Smith says
I appreciate this article.
I really do not appreciate the use of the word ‘should’ in the above comment.
For me should does not come into it, a lot of women have medical reasons for induction (I have gestational diabetes and thus cannot go further than 38 weeks without undue risk).
I had a natural beautiful birth with my first and am therefore gutted and apprehensive about an induction in a consultant led unit. A far cry from my first birth.
Putting the word should around makes me feel (and i am sure others) that having to be induced holds some sort of moral implication. I’m sure most women would want to labour naturally if they could but there is no reflection on them if they choose pain relief, have a c-section or are induced. Support is what’s needed, ‘should’ becomes a shaming device.
Kristen says
Thank you so much for your comment, Emily! I 100% agree that supporting each other is what’s important. Every situation is different and, in the end, a healthy baby and mama is all that matters.
Amber says
Thank you. We also lost our first born. My water spontaneously broke at 17 weeks so I had to have an induction. With my second son, he tried very hard to come early, even broke my water at 33 weeks but labor stalled so after a week of antibiotics they induced for him. We are currently trying to conceive and it is my sincere hope I won’t ever have to be induced again! I went natural no pain medicines with the second induction, I would very much like to experience non pitocin labor!
Kristen says
Thank you so much for sharing Amber! I’m so sorry for your loss. I will join you in praying for a healthy pregnancy and labor for you. Being induced is no fun but sometimes completely necessary. I pray for experience the labor you’re hoping for.
Alvin says
Good story,
Everyone should good natural. Whatever your situation, like this article says, do your research. The health benefits of a natural birth far out way your desire to experience less pain during labor. Though some may have said their baby was fine after induced labor and years after, statistically your overall health now and years later for your baby is greater with natural birth. The idea is that natural births tend to be shorter than induced labor.
In doing our research for our first baby (now one month and two weeks old), we chose the Bradley Method. The Bradley Method is a natural childbirth class that helps prepare you for a natural birth. The class is offered in your area by a locally certified Bradley instructor. Yes there is a cost but it is worth every penny. We worked with our instructor and made payments. We received books, videos, workbooks and much more. We also had other couples in our class which is powerful because they encourage each other. My instructor was also a certified lactation consultant and dula/birth coach. You can get more information about it on this site https://draxe.com/bradley-method/. I’m not in any shape or form receiving benefits, pay or etc.. for this information. I’m simply a new Dad that saw the beauty in natural childbirth, benefits to my wife and my son. Like this article says, “do your research”. You can have a successful natural birth experience if your intentional about, focused and unmoved by the mental, physical and spiritual pressure that comes with pregnancy.
P.S.
Our doctor scheduled our induction because they (like most doctors) didn’t want to take chances. Of course, we were not pleased and prayed to God for a natural birth. On the day of induction, we followed our teachings from the Bradley Method classes and used nipple stimulation to help the body naturally start the labor process. I’m here to tell you that we did not get induced, no epidural or anything of that nature. Our son “Ari” was born naturally 7 lbs 4 oz 20.3 inches on November 2ND 2017. We did it so can you.